The Yeshiva World Shidduch Crisis? Part II « » Frum Jewish News: " concerned parents, therapists, and community activists who have noble intentions in their pursuit to solve the problem. Yet, unfortunately, my personal experience, confirmed by many peers who responded to my article, sees a misguided response.
Labeling the situation a crisis is in itself an inappropriate approach to the whole scenario—one which, if anything, only strengthens the hysterical sense of anxiety and panic. The unspoken implication of the term crisis creates a “victim mentality” toward and among those perceived as hostages of the crisis—usually taking the form of rationalized gossip, such as: “Oy, she’s still single?! What a nebach! This crisis is just getting out of control!” The “nebach” knows that he or she is being analyzed, and this judgment is severely disturbing to one’s sense of self."
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